A tea server sets up and serves tea, cleans up after the party, and departs quietly. Serving attire consists of a neatly cleaned and cared for birthday suit and a black bow tie. We prefer our servers naked, but have made accommodations. You will not be happy in a tuxedo in most cases, as you will get too warm. The server may speak only to the serving Mistress or to the Hostess unless answering a direct question, or if necessary to ascertain the wishes of a Lady he is serving. The serving Mistress is aware of any limits, time constraints, etc. involving each server at the party, and will look out for the welfare of the servers. A server with too many limits and constraints with regards to serving will not be accepted.

It is necessary for servers to go through a training course before serving at a tea. No exceptions. The training is quite complete and takes the entire day. If you won't be able to do this, please don't apply. We feel that training is necessary, and that it also gives the servers a good idea of what will be expected of them at the party. Tea servers are permitted to donate $10.00 each for the day of training**. This is to cover the cost of the training materials. Food is provided by whichever Lady is Hostess for that month with the other Ladies giving a donation or bringing food (this is up to the hostess). Other than that, servers are expected to provide their own bow ties.

It is allowed and encouraged if the servers would like to bring something that they have prepared with their own hands to serve to the Ladies. It is also acceptable to bring flowers or some small token as a gift to the Hostess. Gifts are NOT however, mandatory. Good manners, skill, and forethought is one way to get noticed by the hostess and other ladies.

At this time, sissy maids are allowed only by permission of the Lady hostessing the tea. Please don't whine about this. We do not allow deviation from the attire stated above unless the Hostess who is having the tea gives permission. The training requirements are still the same. ** We have recently changed the training classes to reflect the costs of putting them on. We are now accepting a donation of $10 for training. If you miss the class, and do not contact us at least two days ahead of time, you are required to pay $10.